Dating former student after graduation
But I'm not as concerned about social norms as most people. If they are, no problem, otherwise, absolutely not.2)The marital status of the teacher. For me, it would also depend on the teacher's age... pretty much anything else i think wouldn't be a good thing. The teacher should be smart enough to recognise that it will look like she's sexually interested in her students. Even if it is legal and meets the letter of the rules of her employment contract or the school's policy guidelines, a savvy teacher would know better. I moved away to avoid any conflicts and we just got back in touch and have been building our relationship. Its all about maturity and how well you can make it work.
It depends on several factors:1)The age of the student. not because I disapprove of May-December relationships, because I don't care, but if an older teacher started dating an 18 or 19-year-old student soon after graduation, it would smack of authoritative manipulation, or the kid is/was being taken advantage of. after graduation, if the kid is 18 or older, they are now a legal adult and can screw anyone they want to. I think that if you graduated and waited atleast a year before making it official it's ok.
Here's the thing, I have a female student, almost 20, who seems to have quite friendly and a touch the flirty side (you know that impression when you see it).
She seems mature and responsible, despite the fact that many are not at 19 or 20. Now, It IS OUT of the question to even considering anything while shes still a student. Technically, you could have lunch with her after graduation, but I wouldn't do anything more with her until more time as gone by.
It's hard to imagine a situation where a teacher would just happen to develop a relationship with a student after graduation. Love is love and you cant control who you have feelings for. If they had just graduated, it would be really creepy and wildly inappropriate.
More likely, something was going on beforehand and they only starting 'dating' after graduation. But also keep in mind the age difference and people finding out or speculating something, losing his/her license etc. However, my first year as a teacher and fresh out of graduate school, I have a student in my class who graduates at the end of the year and goes off to his life.
They can' t help but see the ex student as a student and they are ... This prohibition includes students enrolled in schools where the teacher isn't ...
Most would wait a few years, probably until the student were finished with college, and THEN would consider dating the former student if both were still interested.
However, I had some teachers who were aged 21-25, and I don't see anything wrong with someone of that age dating a high school graduate. If the teacher is 8 years older or less, I don't see a problem at all.
I've heard when dating someone younger than yourself, never younger than half your age plus seven.
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